September 10, 2022

Exploring Kiwi Kinks on International Kink Day

With International Kink Day on the horizon, LoveHoney’s latest research shows the deepest, darkest fantasies of Kiwis. And surprisingly, they’re pretty vanilla. Kinks have become a normal part of our day to day conversation around sex and pleasure. With many growing in popularity as taboos lift, Kinks are now part and parcel of our sexual experiences together with no sign of slowing down.

From BDSM, threesomes, pegging and everything in between, it’s easy to assume most sexually charged adults have one fantasy or another. With International Kink Day set to come into effect tomorrow, LoveHoney has shared their findings on 1,500 Kiwi’s sexual fantasies.

Surprisingly our biggest Kink is simply to be loved. With 47 percent of Kiwis most common sexual fantasy being about Romanic Sex. Whether our standards are too low or we’re shockingly missing out on love in the bedroom, it’s clear many New Zealanders are feeling romantically shunted sexually.

However, it appears that this need for love doesn’t specifically need to be from our significant other, with 36 percent fantasing about sex with someone they know that isn't their partner. And on top of that another 30 percent want to bone a complete stranger. When it comes to the kinker side of things, only 11 percent of Kiwis fantasise about BDSM, a type of bondage controlled, consensual sex.

Yet get a little rough and we’re on-board, with 23 percent yearning for power control / rough sex, and chuck us in public for a little extra flair with 28 percent looking to do the deed in a public arena. And far be it from Kiwis to keep the party to themselves, as our ‘team of 5 million’ takes the accolade very seriously with over a third (31 percent) wanting to explore threesomes. As a kinky bunch we’re keen and ready to begin exploring these fantasies. However unfortunately communication seems to be the biggest barrier to getting what we want. When it comes to couples 35 percent say they never bring up kinks with their partners.

This lack of communication and unwillingness to explore kinks in the bedroom can lead to physical disappointment between couples from any group. As consensual adults it's important to share, and more importantly be open to hearing about your partner's kinks in the bedroom.

Although 46 percent of Kiwis share their kinks within the first 6 months of dating, that openness becomes lost as comfortability sets in and the fair of Kink shaming sets in. And far be it from Kiwis to keep the party to themselves, as our ‘team of 5 million’ takes the accolade very seriously with over a third (31 percent) wanting to explore threesomes. As a kinky bunch we’re keen and ready to begin exploring these fantasies. However unfortunately communication seems to be the biggest barrier to getting what we want. When it comes to couples 35 percent say they never bring up kinks with their partners.

For this World Kink Day, why not take a chance to explore something new with your partner, or yourself. A small conversation can lead to some big changes, and hopefully even bigger orgasms.