September 1, 2022

How to become a seasoned ‘Sexter’ in no time

Sexting is a long past time that involves two consensual mobile owners to get their rocks off using the written word, emojis, and no shortage of photos. Whether you’re at the beginning stages of a relationship, or you’re trying to spice things up with your long-term partner, sexting is a great way to up the ante.

As Bo Burnham says in his 2020 comedy skit, ‘Sexting’ - “Sexting, it isn’t sex it’s the next best thing'“ - Has some iota of truth.

Sexting, when done right can be a great way for you to use your imagination to increase the pleasure between you and your romantic partner. Great for long distance and especially during extended lockdowns.

Yet Sexting can be pretty daunting. Where do you even start? How do you know if the other person is as into it as you are? Or, how do you get what you want, while being reciprocal?

Well we have the answers on your journey to spend the night with one hand on your phone and the other down below.

Here, the Sexperts at Sinful have offered their expertise on how to become a seasoned sexter in no time.

1: Take itit slow

Slow and steady wins the race when it comes to sexting, and verbally teasing your partner is the ultimate foreplay. Think of sexting like a faucet, start with steady streams, before gradually turning up the heat.

Create sensual sorcery by focusing on colours, sensations, and tastes within your messages. It can be something as simple as "I’ve been thinking about kissing you all day" or "I loved that red colour on you today".

Easing in slowly also makes it easy to “read” the other person and a low-risk way to check your partner is available and in the mood for a sexting session.

2: Save youryour words and use imagery

The beauty of sexting is that you can feel sexy whether you’re wearing old pyjamas or your finest lingerie. It’s all in the fantasy. However, engaging your partner through visual sensory will get you both deliciously hot and bothered.

Of course, you can use your personal nudes if you want to tease about what's in store, however, you can also signify your intentions through other pictorial means such as naughty GIFs or videos.

3: Make itit naughtier with sex toys

Sex toys are not just for physical intercourse or individual masturbation. They’re perfect for sexting when you want to tease your partner.

As well as adding that element of pleasure, by texting about the sex toy you’re using and how you’re using it you can build the fantasy and send your partner’s pulse racing.

You can even, take it up a notch and invest in sex toys that you can use together. Putting your partner in the driving seat can be incredibly hot and get you both lustful.

4: Don’t skimpskimp on the compliments

Opening yourself up sexually can feel vulnerable so compliments can help validate your partner’s desire, creating an honest and sexy space to play.

Plus, there is nothing more liberating and sexier than self-confidence, and paying each other compliments can help your partner discover their inner sexual deity.

5: For beginnersbeginners add a dash of comic relief

Sexting for beginners can easily seem very intense, which can become a bit daunting. So, it may be a good idea for beginners to integrate some humour to break the ice.

For example, you could write something along the lines of, “You make me so horny and wet. I’d better sit on a towel so the chair doesn’t get water damage 😉 ” Emojis should be in your arsenal here for that little bit of comic relief.

6: Self-love clubclub

Self-care is a priority when it comes to anything in life, and sexting should be no different. Consent is always key, so always always make sure yourself and your partner are down to receive sexually explicit content.

Make sure you are sexting someone you trust and understands your boundaries sexually. Without seeing someone’s expressions it can be hard to gauge what might make them uncomfortable, so communication beforehand is key.

“First-times can be daunting, and sexting is no different. Communicating your sexual wants and desires can feel vulnerable at first, but once you are comfortable it can amp up the intimacy In your sex life” says Ditte Jensen, Sexual Wellness Expert  at Sinful..

“We hope our sex-positive tips can help sexting newbies, or seasoned pros improve their sexting game.”